Advice from an “Expert in Failed Relationships”

Dear EFR:
I’m a 27 year old woman who loves having sex ─ the actual act of intercourse, I mean ─ but I hate any kind of foreplay. I just want to get right down to business because having an orgasm is my goal. I find it hugely relaxing, but then I just like to get out of bed and get on with things. I don’t like the cuddling after intercourse and I am definitely not into oral sex, either giving or receiving. You would think that men would find this a huge relief for the most part, except for maybe the not getting oral sex but at least they should be relieved I don’t expect oral sex. Nonetheless, my boyfriend of a year says he feels “interchangeable.” I don’t understand what he means and frankly, though I love him, I don’t understand why he can’t just go with it and just accept that I can’t stand to be touched or kissed during sex. It’s frustrating.
Quickies in Queensland

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